5 False Beliefs About Healing Negative Body Image

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Do you struggle with body image and accepting the body you see in the mirror? Are you tired of constantly thinking about your body and comparing yourself to others?Does looking at photos of yourself send you into a negative downward spiral? So many of my clients struggle with their body image too. They spend so. much. time. and headspace thinking about their bodies. For many, how they feel about their bodies holds them back from fully living their life.

It’s not their fault and it’s not your fault. Body image is predictable in this age. The epidemic of body hate should be headline news, but unfortunately remains a silent epidemic struggle for so many, which is why I wanted to shine the spotlight right in its face. Body hate is a big business in mainstream media and culture, and sadly it keeps us small in spirit, consciousness, character, dis-empowerment, and keeps us from stepping into our potential that is right there waiting to happen because body hate is a nasty disease, it takes over, and is hard to deal with.  

Simply put, body image is what we imagine our body to be.  Imagination is a tremendously powerful force in the human psyche. What we imagine about ourselves, about life, drives our emotions, our metabolism, our thoughts, and our behaviors. On a deeper level, a negative body image says, “I reject the body given to me. I am at war against myself. I am no good. I am not enough. I am unlovable as I am. I do not deserve to experience the simple pleasure of bodily existence.” 

A poor body image is way more than an emotional or psychological concern. It can dramatically influence our health and physiology.  It may drive us to adopt a diet that is nutritionally unsound, which can lead to a long list of metabolic symptoms.  The pure, simple, physiologic stress of constantly attacking the body with psychic pressure by itself can lead to very wide range of symptoms, most notably poor digestion, poor assimilation of nutrients, fatigue, inflammation, mood concerns, immune challenges, diminished energy levels, and lower metabolism and calorie burning capacity. Our dietary choices driven by negative body image can further impact eating challenges such as binge eating, overeating, and emotional eating. Daily restriction and “dieting” tactics to achieve “the perfect body” (whatever that is) can give you a 99% guarantee you’ll experience overeating or binge eating episode in response.

At the end of the day, (in our mind) our attempts to lose weight so we can have a happier body image actually works against us, and rather pushes us closer to creating an inability to lose weight, and the likelihood of gaining it, which only further increases our frustration about the body.

Do You See Food As The Enemy?

Most body image challenged individuals have a relationship with food where the food is essentially the enemy. Even though they may love food, it is a source of intense stress because it paradoxically gives great pleasure and fulfillment, but leads to the evils of weight and body fat. This creates a fundamental battle in the mind that cannot be logically resolved. Because of this conundrum, body image challenged clients live in constant fear, fight, struggle, and frustration. If you see food as the enemy, then every time you eat, the body will be in some degree of physiologic stress response, leading to a wide range of symptoms mentioned above.

How Do You Develop Body Image?

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Body image is determined inside each of us by a combination of factors – culture, religion, family, peers, media, and personal experiences and soul lessons through life.  In my experience, I often here about stories from a clients about how he or she was bullied, participated in a body subjective sport like dance or gymnastics, had a parent or family member who struggled with their own issues with food, a doctor who recommended a diet for them when they were 9 (and so many more,) that passed along messages that he or she was not acceptable at their current weight. Hate and body shaming is IMPOSSIBLE for a young mind to successfully process and mount an immune response to it. And so, the young mind takes things from the outside and OWNS them. They assume the message. Just ONE experience, ONE comment, can be enough for one to take those words and eat them and introject it such that they repeat it to themselves like a curse. So if you are struggling with a negative body image, please know, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT.  Body hate and weight shaming are powerful, invisible force fields not just for innocent kids, but for adults, meaning, just because you can’t measure it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist -like love- and you have EVERY right to feel overwhelmed with these messages.

The exposure to millions of messages about body image is like experiencing paper cuts every day.

– Marc David

To help put you on the path to healing body image, let’s review FALSE beliefs about how to heal it so you can stop wasting your time and energy going down a path that has no victory flag waiting for you in the end.

#1 We Falsely Believe We Can Heal Body Image By Changing the Body

Most people look to heal their negative body image by changing the body to an impossible-to-reach standard.  At some point in life, we feel our current body is unlovable and/or unacceptable, and NOBODY wants to inhabit a body that is “unlovable”! The first sense that the body is unlovable, it’s our first sense to get the hell outta there.

 Separating from the source (that which is created whole starting at birth) is called disembodiment. Disembodiment leads to shame (I AM not enough, I AM unlovable), which leads to the need to control (food, people, money, weight, etc) because control = safety. High needs for control leads to a quest for perfectionism and then (surprise) when we cannot achieve the perfect weight or perfect body, perfect whatever, we fall into a downward spiral of self abuse and self attack leading to even more disembodiment.

**Disembodiment–> Shame–> Control–> Perfectionism–>Self Abuse**

The mind believes that “when things are perfect, my weight is perfect, then I will truly have control and my life will be OK forever.” Perfectionism, in and of itself, is a disease. It is an impossible goal that grips people like a bad virus and takes over our minds and destroys our true potential. Perfectionism implies we are finished with our work, that means there is no more work to do, no more suffering, “only goodies in life will I have”, “I am beyond criticism and can no longer be touched by judgement of others”. 

Negative self body attack is like constantly being bombed like in a war and nobody wants to be in that state so perfectionism subconsciously leads to safety to get out of pain suffering. When you look at it in this light, it seems like a reasonable instinctive survival strategy in your mind but when you shine the light of consciousness upon it, you see it’s true colors. Simply put..having a culturally “perfect body” does not guarantee self love and a happy body image

#2 We Falsely Believe We Can Heal Body Image By Losing Weight

Many individuals feel that once that reach that “magic number”, just like reaching the “perfect shape”, all will be good in the world, they will feel comfortable in their own skin, and feel happy with themselves and in life. But what happens when you reach this magic number? It’s still not good enough, is it? If I had a dime for every time I heard that story. Even at their lowest weight, those that struggle with negative body image STILL self attack, pick on themselves and their physical flaws.

Are you thinking, “But I remember when I did lose weight before, I DO remember feeling happy”. Sure, you can get a temporary high and ego boost from losing weight via extreme diet and exercise and you can feel great for a while, but then it’s not enough. These experiences are “false positives” – they are temporary blips on the screen that are generally not sustainable and eventually bring us back to struggle and self attack and dissatisfaction. 

Can I just scream that there is NO SUCH THING AS THE PERFECT WEIGHT? There is literally no evidence that suggests for you, your ethnicity, your age, this time or transition in your life, that you should be X weight. If this were predictable, we all would be the same and totally boring. Unfortunately, weight numbers are shoved in our face, from doctors, to diet programs, to media like “The Biggest Loser”. I’m here to tell you to let go of the magic number of your ideal body weight and relax into your journey. You don’t know, I don’t know, what that number will end up being when it comes to your “natural weight”. And I promise you, if you can stow away your scale for a few months, you will really begin to see how the number on the scale has been totally numbing you from life. The majority of my clients end up never ever stepping on the scale again once they start working with me. And they end up happier, healthier, embodied, and feeling great.

#3 We Falsely Believe We Can Heal Through Diet and Nutrition

My clients KNOW about nutrition, as I’m sure you do too. Our efforts to get out of the body that is “unlovable” are through diet and exercise, that’s what you know, that’s what the world tells you to focus on. The body changes but what still resides is “I’m unlovable”, making it virtually impossible to love yourself, love your body, and sustain any habits you’ve been trying to create. Which is why…

96-99% of people who diet gain the weight back within a year

This is why negative body image is actually not a “food problem”. The symptoms of negative body image come out often through food and diet-binge cycles or through restrictive eating and chronic dieting behaviors.

Food often times is restricted, it becomes a war of “good vs bad”, and something we HAVE to do versus something we WANT to do. Exercise is also used often as a weapon, it’s not just to “feel good” rather it’s to burn off the 100 extra calories you “shouldn’t” have eaten that day, or as penance for a “bad weekend” of eating, or because you saw yourself in the mirror that morning and said awful comments about yourself. Collectively, once again, this creates stress on the body and a plethora of emotional and physiological consequences. When we only obsess about food and exercise to achieve the perfect body, we don’t sense the body and are not truly in it, we check out to some degree. We think about the body rather than experience it. This is what 99.9% of people are missing when it comes to their success, is themselves! Their body! And Being in it!

#4 We Falsely Believe We Can Heal By Having a Body That We Believe is More Acceptable to Others

The world projects that we should look like the movie stars on TV, the models in the magazine, or Spartan warriors or bodybuilders. They convince us that when you have this “acceptable” body you achieve more happiness, money, dreams, sex, and more. So we go on this quest, to conform to what the world believes is acceptable in terms of body shape while silently cursing the body we’re currently in, triggering the cycle of disembodiment, shame, control, perfectionism, and self attack.

Did you know that Judy Garland had an eating disorder? Experts believe this is what drove her to her drug overdose in the end. Strong example, but she is one of many examples that pokes holes in your belief that if you achieve the look that the world finds acceptable that you’re going to feel GREAT about yourself and you won’t ever have to worry it ever again. I work with a LOT of “fit” individuals who seem to fit the “profile” body of what the world suggests your body should be like and yet, they still body hate.

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I attempted to take this path myself. I stepped into the bodybuilding world for years. I had magazine tear outs on my wall of women who I wanted to look like. I became obsessed with not only looking like them but being BETTER than them (because what they looked like wasn’t enough, right?). Years later I found myself depressed and suffocating in the dark world of food and weight. I lost who I was as a person because I was so disembodied. Today, although I no longer have the fitness model look or all the muscle I worked so hard to achieve, I am literally the HAPPIEST I have ever been because I went on the journey to reconnect with myself and my body again, and in that process, remove all the toxic messages I ate about weight and body image from the world. I want you to know that having the “perfect” body literally guarantees nothing.

#5 We Falsely Believe We Can Heal By Hating the Body into Change

Somehow we think we can hate our body now, attack it, call it names, pick on it, ignore it, dismiss its needs, dismiss its wisdom, try to force it to do all kinds of nonsensical things and then ONLY when it loses the weight will we love it. That’s called superficial love my friends, waiting until conditions are met to show any kind of love towards self. Do you love your friend more if your friend would lose more weight?? Of course not. Oftentimes our friends except us without conditions. They are accepting our body without conditions. And you should too.

The whole purpose (in our mind) to losing weight is for us to be able to love ourselves more and be happy and empowered, but how can you expect to go down the road of self attack to find a place of self love? This is LOGICAL ABSURDITY! This is another reason why so many lose weight or change their shape and find it’s still not enough.

Healing body image means moving from conditional love of the body to unconditional love of the body…

Loving your body, this vehicle that you are in now that is literally going to be with you throughout your entire transformation, does not mean that you are “in love” with everything about it. It does not mean you do not wish to shape shift your body. It simply means to stop hating it, and accept it unconditionally. Finding “body neutrality” is another term that is often used that represents the same goal that the hate towards self subsides.

Your journey forms the destination, you must love yourself INTO your weight loss and transformation. You cannot HATE yourself into it. It just doesn’t work that way. Self attack means, literally, you’re under attack, and what does that lead to? More emotional and physiological stress and its metabolic side effects so you hating on your body all the time is keeping your body in a state of stress, moving your body AWAY from its metabolic potential and ability to achieve its natural weight!

It is wise NOT to measure your success with body image by how much weight you lose or how you change your shape. Assess, as best you can, if you’ve made an inner shift and have truly moved to a place of more self love.  Consider this: a negative body image has us constantly in judgment of the body, speaking to it in a hurtful way, and performing acts of diet and exercise that are punishing and unloving. It has us walking through the world in a constant and silent rejection of one’s own self. Thus, every small act of self love is a medicine, a healing, a reprogramming of the virulent disease. 

In Closing…

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Body Image cannot be fixed. It can only be evolved, healed, and cultivated. Healing body image is about connecting to a higher purpose for your life. Consider how much energy goes into attacking and thinking about your body? That becomes your purpose, and when it’s only about ‘changing this part of my body’ we end up robbing the world of US.

Negative body image is, ultimately, a spiritual, soul issue – a challenge to find deeper meaning and teachings and personal growth when it comes to the phenomenon of being a “soul in a body.”  See body image challenges as a beautiful area for growth and healing rather than a curse. 

Healing body image requires courage, self inquiry, and at times feeling emotions that are uncomfortable or painful, it’s more of a constant practice that takes baby steps forward. There are no shortcuts. So relax, this is going to take a little time and that’s ok. I know that doesn’t sound sexy and that isn’t something that sells in mainstream media, but it’s the truth. And it is time someone was actually truthful and real with you about these very painful challenges.

Because you have “inherited” your body image from family, culture, religion, and media – a negative body image is not so much a personal issue as it is a collective one. And as it’s a collective issue to the development of negative body image, the solution also resides as a collective one. Ask for help. Surround yourself with the right professionals, coaches, support groups, educational tools about body image (and not diets!). Stop following people on social media that feed the toxicity and anxiety around body image. Do not let this dominate and cause you to take it to your grave as so many do. You CAN live a life not dominated by body hate. You may not see how exactly the means to getting there looks like, but I promise, it exists. You are MORE than a body. You deserve to feel good, to feel comfortable, starting NOW in the body that you’re in.

Shelby McDaniel, Eating Psychology and Mind Body Coach
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Sources: The Institute For the Psychology of Eating, Module 02, 1-4 (Accessed 2019)

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    I had my 100K race this last weekend.  It was the Twisted Branch 100K in the Finger Lakes area of NY.  It was a tough day, lots of climbing (10.6K), but the tough part was the heat and dew point.  Over 50% dropped through out the day leaving 42 of us to finish.  There was […]

  • Larry Sabourin

    Shelby (aka Boss!!!) you are truly the best that has happened to me in my fitness journey. I feel like you really listen and are in tune with what does/doesn’t work for me. You’ve been an awesome inspiration and true role model. I appreciate your honesty and how you live and stay true to your […]

  • 76 Years Young and Rockin’ It

    My experience with TNT was wonderful! I am still using the same game plan you started me on a few months ago, it gave me a lot of flexibility and taught me how to plan my day.. To date, I am down from 166 to 152 — a great accomplishment for me. I look great in my […]

  • Jayme F: Performance and Positivity

    I wanted to thank you! Your help and advice have stuck with me. I used to view myself in such a negative way, even while you were helping me. It wasn’t until a few weeks after my nutrition program that I finally saw the light. I was so restrictive and hard on myself to look […]

  • Awesomesauce!

    Shelby !   I just wanted to take the time out to say thank you again. Coming into this I was expecting, but not knowing what I would get. “TNT” has changed my whole outlook on nutrition and just life period. Dealing/Coping with depression and anxiety, you took the time out to help me understand what […]

  • Chris Fitzner | MMA Athlete

    Working with Shelby was awesome! She fulfilled her role wonderfully as my coach, she listened to my goals and really gave me a solid plan to reach them. I also enjoyed the fact that I was allowed multiple meal plans (While reaching the same goals) as to switch things up if they it got a […]

  • Forever Grateful! Kristen B

    My journey with TNT Nutrition started with my TNT Fitness program (a partner of TNT Nutrition), which I joined in order to get in shape for my wedding. I had been working with the program for about a week before I realized that in order to make the most of my fitness routine, I needed to […]

  • Clinton Beach, PNBA Pro Masters Bodybuilder Champion

    Clinton Beach is an astounding athlete! He puts his body to the test every year, competing in a minimum of 3 shows. In 2016 he won 1st place and obtained then title of PNBA Pro Masters Bodybuilder Champion. In October 2016 he went on to compete in the Natural Olympia in Las Vegas, Nevada where he placed 10th […]

  • Michelle Koleas-Triathlete

    TNT Nutrition is an endurance athlete’s partner in performance; training doesn’t work without proper nutrition. Shelby is a pro in keeping my body fueled during grueling training sessions and carb loadingbefore a race. A well fueled muscle is a high performing muscle. She understands that I have enough on my plate with family, work, and […]

  • Aissata Cisse | Fitness Inspiration

    What can we say about Aissata Cisse? She is super mom! She made the decision to change her lifestyle and never looked back. Aissata has truly has made a complete body transformation. Aissata is a proud mom of two. What started as a journey to change her lifestyle has turned into a love to compete in […]

  • Natalie Bun

    Natalie Bun is a model and IFPA Pro Bikini competitor. In 2015 she made her debut on the Natural Olympia stage in Las Vegas where she place an astounding 6th place out of 35 competitors from across the world! Natalie is widely followed not only because of her accomplishments but also due to her positive personality […]

  • Dwayne Punter | IFBB Pro, Veteran

    Dwayne Punter joined TNT Nutrition in July 2014 and achieved his IFBB Pro card in July 2015 at the Master’s National Championships in Pittsburgh, PA. “Shelby-Thank you for a successful season! Dreams do come true! #willitanditwill ”     Please follow and like us:

  • EVERYTHING Has Changed!

    I REALLY appreciate everything you’ve done for me!  All the info and things you’ve taught me – they’ll last a lifetime!  My thoughts and habits regarding nutrition,  my love for the gym and lifting weights,  EVERYTHING has changed since working with you.  I am so grateful 🙂 Thank you so much Shelby!! Leigh Please follow […]

  • TNT Nutrition Competitor Gallery

    TNT Nutrition currently has 2 IFBB Men’s Physique Pro’s, 1 PNBA Bodybuilding Pro, 1 INBF Figure Pro, and 1 NGA Bikini Pro in the competition circuit, amongst many other amateur competitors that are out to achieve lifelong goals or achieve pro status! Please follow and like us:

  • Jannike J | -25lbs

    Thank you so much for a great program! After close to 8 months in the program one way or other, I feel confident that I can continue my new and improved habits on my own. After having three children in four years, I had added more stubborn pounds than I was willing to admit. I […]

  • Sarah K | A New Me

    I’d been the extremely fit high school and college athlete; at my fittest, I was 14 percent body fat. I took my fitness for granted. I ate what I wanted and although I took a college class on nutrition, nothing sunk in. Over the years I fought the slow mid-life creep. I convinced myself that […]

  • TNT Nutrition Teen Success!

    A little over a year ago, my son Adam was working out like a madman and obsessing about “eating right” — but he was 15 years old and downright scrawny. Both my wife and I were pretty worried that he really wasn’t eating right, and even though he had read every scrap of nutrition advice […]

  • Mike Cogan

    Shelby is great. She helped me conquer 30+ years of poor nutrition habits (my whole life up until that point). She got me to understand that eating less makes you smaller; I had to eat differently to improve my body’s composition. She was a major contributor to my gaining about 10 pounds of muscle and […]

  • Nic Dennard | IFBB Pro, Coach, Veteran

    I don’t know where to start. I decided I wanted to compete in the NPC after years of weight training. Thankfully, I found Shelby. With her guidance, I’ve been very successful and earned my IFBB Pro status inthe summer of 2014. Since I’ve been with her, I’ve seen other competitors go from being out of […]

  • Elisabeth |100lb Weight Loss

    Do we need say more? Elisabeth came to TNT Nutrition with the mindset of a champion. She lost over 100lbs!!!!! Not only did she learn sustainable healthy eating habits, she went the distance and pushed herself to compete in her first women’s bodybuilding show! We couldn’t be more proud of Elisabeth!! Please follow and like […]

  • Lesslie K

    I definitely do not rely on the scale like I used to because those are soul crushing lol especially when the hard work is paid off through inches instead of pounds.  I’ve learned to balance my healthy foods and junk foods.  90% healthy and 10% junk, but now I’m getting to a point where I […]

  • Barbara | New Lifestyle

    I think I’m a pretty normal person- a busy job, kids, household chores, and there’s always the commute. A year after having a baby I was still a size 16. My personal trainer Brock, suggested giving TNT Nutrition a try noting that 80 percent of weight loss is diet. After another six months and a […]

  • Kadie B | A New Me!

    I know the pictures couldn’t be more different – the before pic of me at the beach and the after of me going to a formal event this weekend.  I don’t even have a spanks or girdle or anything on under that dress – what????? Anyways I think the pictures actually do a good job […]

  • Paula J | Wedding Dress Success!

    I had the idea of wanting to have a picture in my wedding dress for our 25th anniversary but I was not feeling my best and the size 2 dress really did not fit. Thanks to your program I was able to lose 11 lbs and wear my dress for our 29th instead. My husband […]

  • The Amazing Jane loses 25lbs

    We’re always thrilled to share success stories from our online weight loss program! I’ve had the pleasure of working with Jane through our Lifestyle Intervention program. She was always determined to reach her goals, and really took to heart the coaching and advice I provided her, I knew she was bound to be super successful! Jane was enrolled with us […]

  • Mimi |120 Pound Weight Loss

    “My weight has been a struggle for me since the age of 18 years old. My troubles began when I started going to food for comfort because it “helped me feel better” or so I thought at the time. In actuality, in that moment it did help me feel better but soon after I felt […]

  • Eric F

    In Nov 2010 I was introduced to Shelby and that is when she gave me the tools to success, my own personal nutrition plan. Initially I was 226lbs and 11% BF. In our initial, Shelby asked me what was my goal? I had a picture of one the former Weight Loss contest winners and said this is […]

  • Gina W

    Shelby worked with me in the couple months prior to my big A race of 2011: Ironman Arizona. She not only reconfigured my nutritional needs to get some undesired body weight and fat down but also helped me ‘carbo load’ prior to the event as well as work with me on my nutritional needs for during the […]

  • Leslie S

    Who woulda thought??? Really after an entire life (42 years) of having what I thought was my body, I never realized I could have this new one. I never realized my true potential. My average “heavy” weight even while working out was 135-145 lbs.My heaviest steady weight was 150 lbs. plus. After 4 months with […]

  • John H | Competitor, USMC

    Shelby McDaniel…WOW!!! What can I say! It has been a pleasure and an honor to work with her. I have been competitively competing in bodybuilding for 3 years now. My first year I worked with someone else and I did really well, however I wanted someone that I could talk to and someone that could devote […]

  • Rachel Dillon

    Testimonial provided by husband Patrick I just wanted to send you a very, very big thank you for EVERYTHING that you have done for and with Rachel over the last several months. I know that I wouldn’t be able to get all of this out next weekend at the show but I wanted to make […]

  • Mike Pope | MMA Athlete

    “My experience with Shelby has been amazing, I’ve seen dramatic results not only in the cage and on the mat, but in my everyday life. I fought six MMA cage fights, and countless different jujitsu tournaments before being on Shelby’s plan, all of which involved cutting at least ten pounds each time, and honestly I […]

  • Colton Smith | MMA Athlete, Veteran

    I’ve been a client of Shelby’s for much of my professional MMA career. With her dedication and proven knowledge of nutrition and fitness it helps develop a tailor made plan for every individual. I’ve competed in wrestling for almost 20 years and used many different weight loss techniques, with Shelby’s overall assistance and guidance the […]

  • Stephanie McLamb OCB Figure Competitor | Fitness Enthusiast

    My experience with you has been so unforgettable and helpful. I use to have no self-esteem or confidence in myself and now I know I can do anything I want to in life as long as I put my mind to it. With your help I lost weight and a lot of body fat and […]

  • Tamara Christman |Competitor

    I had always wanted to compete in a figure competition, but the responsibilities of being a full-time parent and employed educational manager always took priority.  Shelby proved to be an experienced professional in the sport of figure for me, as well as other physique competition preps.  Her ability to see where I needed to tighten […]

  • Scottie Lynn | NPC National Figure Competitor | Competitive Runner

    I am a competitive runner and have always wanted to embark on a figure competition, I just did not know where to start! My high school acquaintance and now dear friend Tammy Christman (Also a TNT Nutrition client) happened   to  see a Facebook post where I stated I was going to try to do […]

  • TNT Nutrition Student Wins the Battle Against Type I Diabetes!

    After being hospitalized and becoming a newly diagnosed type 1 diabetic at the age of 22, my whole routine and life in general was flipped upside down.  I had always been involved in competitive athletics and had plans to compete in multiple events in the near future.  However, when I lost a significant amount of weight […]

  • Anonymous

    Growing up, I was a healthy happy person.  I never focused on my weight.  I was a size 6 and was active in sports (basketball and rowing) and things were good.  Life took a dramatic turn for me 15 years ago.  While leaving work one night, I was attacked by a stranger, raped and  left for dead in […]

  • Christine W | Virginia

    THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR YOUR WORK WITH CHRISTINE!!!!  As you have probably deduced, she is thrilled with the results!  Before she came to you she really was at an impasse and I think she saw her desire to lose weight almost as an impossibility.  You changed that and gave her the hope, encouragement […]

  • Debra S | 54 Years Young

    I joined the TNT nutrition program in May 2012. At my weigh-in last night, I have lost 9.5% body fat and 20 pounds! I have gone down two pant sizes and feel great! My energy and endurance during my cardio workouts and weight training have greatly increased; I can now jog 3 miles at a time […]

  • Megen G

    The TNT Nutrient Program serves as a building block to educate on the importance of eating healthy to maintain a healthy body, healthy mind, healthy cells and organs.  The program outlines portion control, eliminating bad food habits, understanding carbohydrates, essential fats, and proteins foods and how they fuel the body.  The program gives a full […]

  • Keedah S

    Change was not easy.  Sticking with a work out plan and committing to changing what I put in my mouth was even harder!  I decided that NOTHING was going to change until I decided to get up and do something about it! ….Then came Sunny and Shelby w/ TNT Fitness and Nutrition!  They have changed my life.  […]

  • Catherine S

    Shelby, thanks SO MUCH….honestly, from the bottom of my heart this is what I NEEDED and the fact that you have been willing to work with me has meant the world!  Thank you just doesn’t seem enough to convey my gratitude, but I want you to know what this has meant to me!  I have […]

  • Crystal | Northern VA

    My entire life I have always struggled with my weight and was always a plus sized girl.  At the height of my weight I was a size 18 and weighed just over 200 pounds.  I was never an active person, I was always lazy.  I watched a lot of TV and sat at the computer surfing […]

  • Katie M. | Northern VA

    Prior to joining TNT Nutrition, I was a Weight Watcher.  I was a little hesitant to leave Weight Watchers because I had a lot of success on the plan.  On Weight Watchers, I could eat whatever.  As long as I followed my 29 (and now only 26) points, I was promised weight loss.  Eventually though, […]

  • Janice | Virginia

    I enrolled in Nutrition Plan with Shelby with a goal of a 10 lb weight loss. I have exceeded that goal, but more importantly I am now equipped with nutrition tools that    will last a lifetime! You won’t believe this but I have lost 11.5 lbs so far and I have never gone hungry and […]

  • Tara H | Virginia

    I think no matter how much weight you have to lose it always feels like a daunting task.  I had been trying to lose 5 to 10 lbs for years but had very little success in keeping it off.  The TNT Nutrition program was perfect for me.  I wanted a plan that was easy and […]

  • Sandy Z | Northern VA

    These words are from a song:  I’m so excited, I just can’t hide it!!!!  That is the way I feel since I joined the TNT Nutrition program.  I am so excited I did because I have lost over 25 pounds, but I look like I lost more weight because my body fat has dropped immensely […]

  • Stacy C | Tysons Corner, VA

    When I started TNT Nutrition, I was really nervous because I had no idea what it would involve and what I would have to eat.  Then I started to study the customized nutrition plans that Shelby made especially for me and my work and work-out schedule.  Shelby promised that even though the plan assigned me […]

  • Charlotte

    At my highest weight, I was 108 pounds more than I weighed when I got out of the military. I could not believe I had let my body go! With the help and support of an old friend I joined a CrossFit gym and also began following the Zone Diet way of eating. The diet […]

  • Chuck & Merry | -70lbs

    My personal trainer Chris encourages his students to be successful and talks about the TNT trinity:  classes, cardio and nutrition.  He recognized my struggle last fall and began to talk to me about Shelby and the TNT Nutrition program.  Since, my husband Chuck does much of the cooking at home, and he is a very […]

  • Julia

    Here at TNT Nutrition, we work with all types of goals, weight loss being numero uno. Losing weight for the long-term is not easy, hence why we try all the quick fixes we can before we come to the realization that it’s really a matter of making lifestyle changes. It’s a very personal journey as […]

  • Chris | -25lbs, -3.5% bf, -5.75″ waist

    My personal trainer was urging me to get assistance with my nutrition, but I was hesitant. This past summer I started getting blurred vision in my left eye.  It got progressively worse over the course of a few days.  I went to the ophthalmologist and it was determined I had retinal vein occlusion.  Retinal vein […]


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